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Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Amanduh on Mon Sep 12, 2016 9:35 pm

Hey I'm new here.

Unfortunately, we just found out today that my mom has plasma cell multiple myeloma. She's 56. My best friend. She's so scared and I'm so upset.

Just wanted to come here for support or advice and to hopefully hear she'll live forever like I always thought she would.

I'm turning 30 in less than a month. We had plans to take our first cruise together in June 2017. I have 2 boys – 8 and 2 – who love her so much! The future is just crumbling before my eyes with this awful news. I can't stop crying :(

Amanduh
Name: Amanda
Who do you know with myeloma?: My mom
When were you/they diagnosed?: 9/12/2016
Age at diagnosis: 56

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Little Monkey on Mon Sep 12, 2016 11:17 pm

Sorry to hear. I have a few questions.

To start off, multiple myeloma is not usually a fast-approaching death sentence like it once was. With the current treatments available, survival of two decades after diagnosis has been attained, including by a member of this forum.

The questions:

Has your mom been diagnosed by a family physician or a hematologist as having multiple myeloma?

Does your mom have any kidney involvement or anemia?

Does your mom have bone involvement (unexplained fractures, vertebral tumors pushing against spinal cord)?

Little Monkey
Name: Little Monkey
Who do you know with myeloma?: Father-stage 1 multiple myeloma
When were you/they diagnosed?: March/April of 2015

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by elizabethmwm on Tue Sep 13, 2016 10:22 am

When I saw your post, I thought to myself, "this could have been my daughter writing this." Like your Mom, I was also diagnosed at age 56 (two daughters 27 and 29 at the time). My main symp­tom was extreme anemia, so the first matter of business was hospitalization with trans­fusions and lots of tests. Three days later, I had a multiple myeloma diagnosis. That was just over four years ago. After the initial flurry of activity (lots of reading about multiple myeloma), I knew I needed to be treated by a myeloma specialist. My husband and I decided to seek a second opinion from MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston, Texas, where I continue to be treated. It's a 10-hour drive and we drove it quite a few times the first year (now it's twice a year). I had a stem cell transplant in February 2013. I have an at-home oncologist who works with the specialist.

Even though I have not received a complete remission, I have great quality of life. The Myeloma Beacon is a great site to ask questions and get to know others who are in the same "fight." Believe it or not, there have been many "silver linings" to my diagnosis. Best wishes.

elizabethmwm
Name: Elizabeth M
Who do you know with myeloma?: me
When were you/they diagnosed?: 8/20/2012
Age at diagnosis: 57

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Amanduh on Thu Sep 15, 2016 1:17 pm

My mom was diagnosed by a hematologist. She went through blood work, full body x-ray, and bone marrow biopsy and got the diagnosis. She has multiple compression fractures along her spine. She got a kyphoplasty to help provide relief. She got that surgery done before she was diagnosed. No sign of kidney involvement or anemia. X-ray came back normal. We know nothing about tumors. She's currently in a consultation appointment as I write this to discuss a bone marrow transplant / chemo patch that'll be on her chest.

Amanduh
Name: Amanda
Who do you know with myeloma?: My mom
When were you/they diagnosed?: 9/12/2016
Age at diagnosis: 56

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Wobbles on Thu Sep 15, 2016 5:58 pm

Hi Amanduh,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom and I realize how much of this must be a stress on you. You’re a good daughter to be standing so resolutely with your mom during this time.

When I first joined this site a few months ago, just after my MGUS turned into active myeloma, I was immediately struck by how many posters on this site were actually family members supporting other family members in their battles against myeloma. As a group, they seem most caring and loving and most knowledgeable about the many aspects of fighting diseases. Much can be learned from them.

I hope you continue to participate.

Who knows? Maybe one day you’ll be helping the new arrivals with their concerns.

Best of luck to you and your mom,

Joe

Wobbles
Name: Joe
Who do you know with myeloma?: myself
When were you/they diagnosed?: June 2016
Age at diagnosis: 67

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Little Monkey on Sat Sep 17, 2016 9:36 am

Amanduh,

Just to be sure, I would get an MRI of her spine if one has not already been done.

I would not be surprised if the haematologist prescribes two years of Aredia (pamidronate) or Zometa (zoledronic acid) to help prevent any further compression fractures, but your mom will have to discuss the pros and cons of that with her doctor.

Little Monkey
Name: Little Monkey
Who do you know with myeloma?: Father-stage 1 multiple myeloma
When were you/they diagnosed?: March/April of 2015

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Amanduh on Tue Sep 20, 2016 6:55 pm

Thanks everyone! I'm so appreciative of all of the support already! She doesn't want many people to know, so coming here to talk about it is relieving me of so much tension and stress.

She has her next appointment Tuesday, and, yes, I'll mention to her about the MRI for her spine again. I'll update again soon!

Amanduh
Name: Amanda
Who do you know with myeloma?: My mom
When were you/they diagnosed?: 9/12/2016
Age at diagnosis: 56

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Helen521 on Thu Sep 22, 2016 6:26 am

I just wanted to say welcome to the forum. Sorry that you have to be here, but it is a place full of support and knowledge. My father was recently diagnosed with smoldering myeloma, and it has been an emotional time. I hope your mother's next appointment goes well.

Helen521
Who do you know with myeloma?: father (Smoldering)
When were you/they diagnosed?: Sept 2016
Age at diagnosis: 65

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by Amanduh on Thu Sep 29, 2016 12:49 pm

Update on my mom:

We went together to one of her appoint­ments this past Tuesday, where we dis­cussed her medi­ca­tions and an injection she'll be getting every Monday starting on October 3rd. She's very over­whelmed with it all. Personally, I think once she gets into her new routine that she'll be okay with it as much as possible.

She's scared of the unknown. She's nervous about her injection and all of the side effects she could have with that as well as the other medications. I wish I could just take it all away, but all I can do is be there for her which I will be every step of the way. My best friend ♡

Amanduh
Name: Amanda
Who do you know with myeloma?: My mom
When were you/they diagnosed?: 9/12/2016
Age at diagnosis: 56

Re: Just got bad news - my mother has multiple myeloma

by countrygirl on Tue Oct 04, 2016 4:10 pm

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'm MGUS and one of the things that upsets me is thinking of my daughter having to go through what you're going through. All my love and prayers <3

countrygirl
Name: Countrygirl
Who do you know with myeloma?: IgG MGUS
When were you/they diagnosed?: September 2016
Age at diagnosis: 35

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