I imagine people with spouses and sig­nif­i­cant others have someone who helps them remember. It would be hard to erase the marks of disease from life. For those of us who are unpartnered, it’s easier to pretend – to revise the myeloma story as needed.

Forging new rela­tion­ships may be perilous. Dating involves telling tales and revealing secrets.

Living far beyond the initial trauma of receiving a multiple myeloma diag­nosis is a blessing. In my case, I regard my journey into that territory as an unfortunate detour of some kind. I escaped …