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Why won't family (parents, siblings) give us money?
Any ideas? Someone who has had multiple myeloma surely deserves it, right?
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Bobvancleef38 - Who do you know with myeloma?: My father
- When were you/they diagnosed?: 1994
- Age at diagnosis: 40
Re: Why won't family (parents, siblings) give us money?
Anybody facing a challenge 'deserves' it. I deserve a chocolate bar that has no calories but tastes exactly like the real thing.
Doesn't mean I'll get it.
Perhaps, if you define who 'us' is, it might help? If you are talking about 'us' as "people who would use it to help find effective treatments and perhaps even a cure," then I think our families are generally doing fine with giving 'us' money.
If you are talking about family supporting us, personally, financially, I think most of us are on the receiving end of that sort of love, too.
However, if you are simply trolling, then ... ask yourself why you should give me money, and figure out the answer on your own.
Doesn't mean I'll get it.
Perhaps, if you define who 'us' is, it might help? If you are talking about 'us' as "people who would use it to help find effective treatments and perhaps even a cure," then I think our families are generally doing fine with giving 'us' money.
If you are talking about family supporting us, personally, financially, I think most of us are on the receiving end of that sort of love, too.
However, if you are simply trolling, then ... ask yourself why you should give me money, and figure out the answer on your own.
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dianaiad - Who do you know with myeloma?: Me
- When were you/they diagnosed?: Officially...March 2013
- Age at diagnosis: 63
Re: Why won't family (parents, siblings) give us money?
I don't know how old you are, but I think you need to try get over feeling the world owes you something because your dad is sick. It's a harsh but true reality that bad sh*t happens to good people and then we move on.
If you are old enough, I think kids have an obligation to support parents as they age. I am lucky my parents are healthy and able to support themselves right now, but if the time comes I would have no issue taking on the responsibility as a duty to my parents and I'm the one with cancer! They are healthy! I.e paying their living costs, moving them in with me etc.
Maybe you can look into financial options on behalf of your dad? I'm in Canada, and we have the Canada pension plan / disability where you can receive some money each month to live on until your pension kicks in at 65. Not a lot, but everything helps. You could also research organizations in your community who offer support for cancer patients. We have something called Wellspring that is free and supports cancer patients with many programs and services.
You could try reaching out to the social worker (psycho social services) at your dad's cancer hospital as a starting point?
If you are old enough, I think kids have an obligation to support parents as they age. I am lucky my parents are healthy and able to support themselves right now, but if the time comes I would have no issue taking on the responsibility as a duty to my parents and I'm the one with cancer! They are healthy! I.e paying their living costs, moving them in with me etc.
Maybe you can look into financial options on behalf of your dad? I'm in Canada, and we have the Canada pension plan / disability where you can receive some money each month to live on until your pension kicks in at 65. Not a lot, but everything helps. You could also research organizations in your community who offer support for cancer patients. We have something called Wellspring that is free and supports cancer patients with many programs and services.
You could try reaching out to the social worker (psycho social services) at your dad's cancer hospital as a starting point?
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Anonymous
Re: Why won't family (parents, siblings) give us money?
The rest of us here suffer in our own way with this monster of a disease and we all have a story to tell. Speaking for myself, I have NEVER felt that anyone else owes me anything.
The harsh reality is that this disease sucks, but ya know what? It could/can be worse. Besides myself having multiple myeloma, my wife just had her non-Hodgkin's lymphoma return for the 3rd time and just started treatment in preparation for a stem cell transplant. On top of that, my son-in-law will be doing the same to fend of his Hodgkin's lymphoma.
Maybe you should learn to count your blessings.
The harsh reality is that this disease sucks, but ya know what? It could/can be worse. Besides myself having multiple myeloma, my wife just had her non-Hodgkin's lymphoma return for the 3rd time and just started treatment in preparation for a stem cell transplant. On top of that, my son-in-law will be doing the same to fend of his Hodgkin's lymphoma.
Maybe you should learn to count your blessings.
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Guitarnut - Name: Scott Hansgen
- Who do you know with myeloma?: Me
- When were you/they diagnosed?: Sept 2011
- Age at diagnosis: 47
Re: Why won't family (parents, siblings) give us money?
It sounds as if you feel your family should be receiving help from family to offset conditions caused by your father's disease. You have to remember that the people you speak of have obligations to others also. Just because their life appears to have an excess, it doesn't mean that they do.
I hope the source of this frustration doesn't cause you more frustration and eventual disconnect with your extended family.
I hope the source of this frustration doesn't cause you more frustration and eventual disconnect with your extended family.
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Wayne K - Name: Wayne
- Who do you know with myeloma?: Myself, my sister who passed in '95
- When were you/they diagnosed?: 03/09
- Age at diagnosis: 70
Re: Why won't family (parents, siblings) give us money?
I'm not trolling, I'm just wondering people's opinions about the money issue. If you're relatively young and you go through multiple myeloma, it's a horrible and devastating thing to go through (for you and your family). Obviously, your self-esteem is affected and your whole world changes.
All I'm saying is don't you think that the sufferer deserves some money. It's likely he won't be working full-time any time soon (if severe, then maybe ever again), and so I personally feel if other siblings have money, really they should help out. Just my opinion.
All I'm saying is don't you think that the sufferer deserves some money. It's likely he won't be working full-time any time soon (if severe, then maybe ever again), and so I personally feel if other siblings have money, really they should help out. Just my opinion.
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Bobvancleef38 - Who do you know with myeloma?: My father
- When were you/they diagnosed?: 1994
- Age at diagnosis: 40
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