I thought I would post about the Kubler-Ross Model in case some of you have never heard of it.
It is a series of emotional stages that I believe was originally intended for those faced with dying or a loved one's death, but I think it can be used by anyone who experiences a life-altering event, such as the day we got diagnosed with myeloma.
Stage 1: Denial (This is not happening!)
Stage 2: Anger (Why me? This is not fair!)
Stage 3: Bargaining (I will do anything to make this go away!)
Stage 4: Depression (Why bother if I'm going to die anyway)
Stage 5: Acceptance (It's going to be okay! I am prepared!)
If the acceptance stage can be reached, we can become more calm emotionally and ready to live the rest of our LONG lives to the fullest. It IS going to be okay!
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gardengirl - Name: gardengirl
- Who do you know with myeloma?: Me
- When were you/they diagnosed?: Nov. 2013
- Age at diagnosis: 47
Re: Kubler-Ross Model
Dr K-Ross ( before she passed) repeatedly said that the stages she labelled are "Fluid", and we drift in and out, of them.
They are /Weren't meant to be defined "Stages", like school grades that follow rigidly, one after the other.
Makes sense to me.
They are /Weren't meant to be defined "Stages", like school grades that follow rigidly, one after the other.
Makes sense to me.
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Rneb
Re: Kubler-Ross Model
I have seen this before. I believe a lot of counselors are very familiar with it.
For myself, I think Stage 1 was more of shock than disbelief. I do not remember spending much time being in the Stage 2, or the “Why me”, Anger stage. I remember just a few days after I was diagnosed the Tsunami hit Japan and 40,000 men, women and children died in a single day. I understood that seemingly unfair things happen to lots of people and there was nothing special about me and my little problem.
I do not remember being in Stage 3 at all. I was depressed a bit but quickly moved to acceptance, or stage 5. What depresses me the most is not the thought of me dying but the effect it leaves on those left behind. I feel like I am letting people down. I do not have young children and I imagine for those who do this is a stress is even worse and beyond what I can understand.
For myself, I think Stage 1 was more of shock than disbelief. I do not remember spending much time being in the Stage 2, or the “Why me”, Anger stage. I remember just a few days after I was diagnosed the Tsunami hit Japan and 40,000 men, women and children died in a single day. I understood that seemingly unfair things happen to lots of people and there was nothing special about me and my little problem.
I do not remember being in Stage 3 at all. I was depressed a bit but quickly moved to acceptance, or stage 5. What depresses me the most is not the thought of me dying but the effect it leaves on those left behind. I feel like I am letting people down. I do not have young children and I imagine for those who do this is a stress is even worse and beyond what I can understand.
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Eric Hofacket - Name: Eric H
- When were you/they diagnosed?: 01 April 2011
- Age at diagnosis: 44
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