I have the same attitude you describe and its what has gotten me through my diagnosis and treatment for AL Amyloidosis and Smoldering Multiple Myeloma. I'm 51 and have 2 daughters--28 and 16 and the thought of not being around to help them become strong, satisfied and emotionally mature women is the worst part of this diagnosis.
I recently read an article in the New York Times by a neurosurgical resident who was diagnosed with lung cancer called, "How Long Have I Got Left?" in which he describes his quest to get a life expectancy number.
( http://www.nytimes.com/2014/01/25/opinion/sunday/how-long-have-i-got-left.html ) This statement really struck me--
"Before my cancer was diagnosed, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when. After the diagnosis, I knew that someday I would die, but I didn’t know when. But now I knew it acutely. The problem wasn’t really a scientific one. The fact of death is unsettling. Yet there is no other way to live."
I, too, have a lot of hope for the future.
Kathy
DX 2/2013
HDC/SCT 4/2013
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