Hi my boyfriend was diagnosed with plasma cell leukemia in December 2011 at the age of 30 years. He received chemotherapy,stem cell autograft, and median survival survival after this procedure is 3 years. He is continuing maintaining thalidomide, which is an oral agent. He is treated with agent that has double myeloma survival.
Now, I am Indian girl and I am in confusion whether I end my relationship or thinking about marriage?
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Re: Boyfriend has plasma cell leukemia - what should I do?
For his sake, end it now. He deserves someone who will love him for better or for worse and that does not sound like you. I hope you never find yourself in a life threatening illness and the love of your life has to question whether or not to leave you.
Wow.
Wow.
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Stooges41
Re: Boyfriend has plasma cell leukemia - what should I do?
I was dumbfounded about someone asking this question. Sure glad my husband didn't leave me when I was diagnosed with plasma cell leukemia.
What a shallow and self-centered attitude.
What a shallow and self-centered attitude.
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WeatherNurse13 - Name: Gracie
- Who do you know with myeloma?: Self
- When were you/they diagnosed?: 10/2012
- Age at diagnosis: 49
Re: Boyfriend has plasma cell leukemia - what should I do?
I agree with Stooges41, for your boyfriend's sake, end the relatiohship.
I cannot begin to imagine the physical and emotional struggles he has been dealing with since his diagnosis, let alone all the treatment he's received and continues to receive. This on its own is a great deal to endure.
I do not mean to sound judgmental but, if you need to come on a public message board and post a question as to whether or not you should end your relationship with your boyfriend due to his being diagnosed with plasma cell leukemia or marry him ... the answer should be painfully obvious. A relationship is based on trust and respect and a GOOD and HAPPY marriage is based on LOVE. If those things are lacking in any capacity, you have a recipe for heartache.
Let me ask, if this situation were the other way around and you were the one who was ill, would you want him to stay with you out of pity? I think not. He needs someone who loves him and wants to support him. He deserves that and nothing less. From all indications, I am sorry to say, but, that is not you. If you do care anything about him at all, end the relationship. Allow him to be free to find someone who will give him the love, respect and support he needs. Its only fair.
I hope you find whatever it is you're looking for.
I cannot begin to imagine the physical and emotional struggles he has been dealing with since his diagnosis, let alone all the treatment he's received and continues to receive. This on its own is a great deal to endure.
I do not mean to sound judgmental but, if you need to come on a public message board and post a question as to whether or not you should end your relationship with your boyfriend due to his being diagnosed with plasma cell leukemia or marry him ... the answer should be painfully obvious. A relationship is based on trust and respect and a GOOD and HAPPY marriage is based on LOVE. If those things are lacking in any capacity, you have a recipe for heartache.
Let me ask, if this situation were the other way around and you were the one who was ill, would you want him to stay with you out of pity? I think not. He needs someone who loves him and wants to support him. He deserves that and nothing less. From all indications, I am sorry to say, but, that is not you. If you do care anything about him at all, end the relationship. Allow him to be free to find someone who will give him the love, respect and support he needs. Its only fair.
I hope you find whatever it is you're looking for.
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Jerseygyrl - Name: Kim
- Who do you know with myeloma?: My Loved One
- When were you/they diagnosed?: February 2014
- Age at diagnosis: 58
Re: Boyfriend has plasma cell leukemia - what should I do?
Certainly....by all means ditch him now.
He will be much happier, with you out of the picture.
Good luck, to him.
He will be much happier, with you out of the picture.
Good luck, to him.
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Rneb
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