Tabitha Tow Burns's Archive

Tabitha Burns is an instructional designer, writer, and monthly columnist at The Myeloma Beacon. Tabitha’s column, “Myeloma, Party Of Two,” refers to herself and her husband Daniel, who was diagnosed with smoldering myeloma in 2012, when in his mid-thirties. Together they live in Houston, where they enjoy choral singing, traveling, entertaining, and inadequately serving their three spoiled cats.

Tabitha Tow Burns has written 57 article(s) .

[ by | Oct 9, 2020 7:05 pm | 13 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party of Two: Legacies

Elaine was a fiery red head who loved her family, open water sailing, and Schlotszky’s sand­wiches. She was mother to my best friend and grand­mother to our god­children. She was care­giver to her hus­band, whose can­cer took him sev­er­al years ago, and she was my friend.

She was also a patient.

In one of life’s ironic tragedies, Elaine tran­si­tioned from can­cer care­giver to can­cer warrior when she was diag­nosed with ad­vanced stage mantle cell lym­phoma in 2012. Elaine …

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[ by | Jul 30, 2020 6:16 pm | 5 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party Of Two: Risky Business

The cur­rent coro­na­virus pan­dem­ic has made some­thing apparent to me: assessing my personal risk level for Covid-19 is complicated, and assessing our “collective risk” may be impossible.

It’s been four months since Covid-19 became a house­hold word and we entered a state of temporary lockdown. As we gathered supplies and made arrangements to work from home, I thought, this isn’t so bad! When else have we had the oppor­tu­ni­ty to stay at home and relax to­geth­er?

I had my mother come …

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[ by | Jun 5, 2020 6:34 pm | 10 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party Of Two: The Cave View

Like a cabinet door left open, the outside world is calling me. To be honest, I’m surprised that I haven’t felt it before now. Towards the end of Feb­ru­ary, con­cerns about COVID-19 were being discussed in the media. Shortly there­after, the first case of the dis­ease was found in the U.S. By the first week of March, my hus­band Daniel and I entered a self-imposed quar­an­tine, which was welcome news to Daniel’s myeloma spe­cialist, who was advising her patients to …

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[ by | Apr 1, 2020 6:00 pm | 4 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party Of Two: Tough Choices

Unexpected things can present tough choices that change the way you live. I sus­pect that most myeloma patients would agree. All myeloma patients have entered a doctor’s office as an “un­ini­ti­ated” (reg­u­lar person) and left as a cancer patient. That diag­nosis changes a person’s life forever, and in its wake there are many choices to be made: initial treat­ment regi­men, radi­a­tion, stem cell trans­plant, clin­i­cal trial par­tic­i­pa­tion, and more.

Over the past six weeks, the pandemic known as coronavirus dis­ease 2019, …

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[ by | Feb 10, 2020 6:07 pm | 8 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party Of Two: Zero Point Seven

Zero point seven. What is 0.7 to you? For most, it’s insignificant, a number be­tween 0 and 1. It’s a mere decimal. It’s not a com­plete whole, and yet it is more than nothing.

To me, it’s much, much more. It took us a long time to get to 0.7 g/dL (7 g/l).

In De­cem­ber, my husband Daniel’s M-spike reached this all-time low and we were en­cour­aged, for the first time in a long time. I started to wonder if we might get down to …

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[ by | Dec 2, 2019 5:42 pm | 17 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party Of Two: Ringing The Bell

For many myeloma patients out there, the chal­lenges of weekly treat­ment in­fusions can create an onerous burden for both the patient and their care­giver. What an understatement!

It’s been tough lately. It’s hard to ex­plain to people that you can put up with almost any treat­ment for a short time, but that be­comes sig­nif­i­cantly more chal­leng­ing when you don’t see an end in sight.

With mixed feelings I hear patients “ringing the bell” to signify the end of their …

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[ by | Oct 4, 2019 12:20 pm | 7 Comments ]
Myeloma, Party Of Two: Dealing With Shingles

I try to ap­proach life with a Rosie Riveter attitude of “We can do this!” I try to be en­cour­ag­ing, especially given the chal­lenges that go along with cancer treat­ment. However, since my husband Daniel began induction treat­ment last March, it’s been one uphill battle after another.

Recently, I was fighting insurance and I asked myself, “What could possibly hap­pen next?”  And the universe answered with a re­sound­ing: shingles!

Like many patients, Daniel had chicken pox as a child. People …

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